The idea of spending time alone can be misunderstood – with solitude often conflated with loneliness.
Yet the two are very different.
Loneliness is a negative emotional state marked by feelings of isolation. It’s a feeling that almost everyone will experience at some point in their life. It can be painful. It can be scary.
But solitude is different, described by psychology professor Netta Weinstein as ‘the state of not interacting with anyone, which can be anything we make it.’
Despite our increasingly hyper-connected world, The World Health Organization (WHO) has declared loneliness a global public health concern, deeming it as deadly as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
Society often frames solitude in a similar way – something to fear and avoid at all costs.
Yet Weinstein’s research in the journal Scientific Reports suggests that choosing to invest in alone time can foster a healthier emotional state, whilst improving our overall sense of happiness, freedom and creativity.
Given we spend on average a third of our waking life alone (for older adults half our time), it’s something to think about.
People have different perceptions of solitude, likely based on their own individual experiences.
Yet it can be ‘as empty or full, as certain or uncertain, as we choose to make it,’ Weinstein says.
If the prospect of embracing a time of solitude seems daunting, it can be useful to ask ourselves why?
What are we avoiding or afraid of? Is it being alone with our thoughts and feelings?
Why as a society do we like to ‘keep ourselves busy?’ And why do we have such a compulsive urge to reach for our smartphones when we are alone?
In times of solitude it seems what we choose to do determines its impact, rather than the actual act of solitude.
For example, the benefits and joys of reading in solitude are well known, although it should be noted that when researchers study the affects of reading, they guard against aimlessly scrolling on a smartphone.
The benefits of solitude – a closer look
Mental Wellbeing
One of the most significant benefits of solitude is its positive impact on mental health. Spending time alone allows us to carve out moments of peace and stillness, away from the constant noise and demands of daily life. This quiet time can help reduce stress and anxiety, providing a much-needed break for our minds¹. Research has shown that solitude can lead to a state of low arousal, which helps calm the nervous system and promotes a sense of tranquility².
Self-Discovery and Reflection
Solitude provides an opportunity for self-discovery and introspection. When we are alone, we can reflect on our thoughts, feelings, and experiences without external influences. This self-reflection can lead to a deeper understanding of ourselves, our desires, and our goals. It allows us to process our emotions and gain clarity on various aspects of our lives².
Enhanced Creativity and Productivity
Many creative individuals, from writers to artists, have found that solitude fuels their creativity. Being alone removes distractions and allows the mind to wander freely, fostering innovative thinking and problem-solving. Additionally, solitude can boost productivity by providing an uninterrupted environment where we can focus deeply on tasks and projects³.
Emotional Rejuvenation
Spending time alone can be emotionally rejuvenating. It offers a chance to recharge and replenish our emotional reserves. Without the pressure to meet social expectations or engage in constant interaction, we can relax and unwind. This emotional reset can help us return to our social lives with renewed energy and a more positive outlook².
Building Resilience and Independence
Solitude can also build resilience and independence. When we spend time alone, we learn to rely on ourselves and develop a sense of self-sufficiency. This independence can enhance our confidence and ability to handle challenges. It teaches us to be comfortable in our own company and strengthens our inner resources³.
Authentic Connections
Interestingly, solitude can improve our relationships with others. By taking time to be alone, we can better understand our own needs and boundaries, which in turn helps us communicate more effectively with others. Solitude allows us to appreciate our social interactions more deeply and fosters a greater sense of intimacy and connection when we do engage with others¹.
Mindfulness and Presence
Solitude encourages mindfulness and presence. When we are alone, we can fully immerse ourselves in the present moment without distractions. This mindfulness can enhance our overall wellbeing and help us cultivate a greater sense of gratitude and contentment in our daily lives³.
Embracing solitude is not about isolating ourselves from the world but about finding balance and harmony within ourselves.
We can reap numerous benefits that enhance our mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing.
So the next time you find yourself craving some alone time, remember that solitude is a powerful tool which helps cultivate a healthier relationship with yourself and those around you.
Further reading and sources
Solitude and wellbeing – the research
Solitude: The Science and Power of Being Alone
¹ The Benefits of Solitude – Psychology Today
² 5 Benefits of Solitude and Why You Need It for Your Mental Health
³ 8 Powerful Benefits of Solitude
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